Russell Brand’s powerful statement after tragic death of Caroline Flack

Russell Brand has issued a powerful statement about the death of Caroline Flack, urging people to opt for kindness and compassion to stop further tragedies. Read more: Twitter: | Facebook:

Former Love Island host Caroline died on Saturday, 15 February, at the age of 40, with it being confirmed that she took her own life. Days after the tragedy, Russell, 44, shared a beautiful post in which he urged readers to reevaluate their actions and embrace the ‘power to heal’ one another, rather than the power to hurt. The comedian wrote: ‘I recently performed a monologue, a “verbatim piece” made up of extracts of the last written words of people who had taken their own lives. I was grateful to the surviving family members for allowing me such intimate access to such a painful and personal artefact. There is so much shame around suicide, so much shame and so much pain.

‘The writing itself; some in the form of emails, some blogs, some old fashioned notes, provided a blurred portal into the mind of the person that would go on to take their own life. I sensed a familiar resonance throughout these varied pieces, a common tune in the expression of these distinct people; it was “ordinariness”. The ordinariness of the thoughts, feelings and events that led them to make the ultimate act of self sacrifice. ‘”I don’t feel good enough”, “I’m lonely”, “I’m worthless”, “I’m scared I’m in too much debt”, “I’m scared I’ve hurt too many people”, “I am unlovable”. Normal feelings that I’ve felt many times, that I suspect we all feel at times. The line then that separates people who kill themselves and people that don’t is vague and uncertain, it is a line within each of us, not between us. We just don’t know who will or who won’t be pushed to a point of such inward pain and desperation that the dreadful certainty of suicide and the despair it inflicts on those left behind are insufficient deterrents.’

Russell continued: ‘I am angry and sad that Caroline Flack found herself in that place. I am sad because she was a lovely little person, a real laugh, a dynamo and the idea that she had been so drained of hope by her circumstances chokes me. I am angry because I have watched this play out before with vulnerable people in the public eye and I would like to slay with some righteous sword the salacious, foaming, incessant poking, trolling judgement that chased her to the grave. The way it did with Jade Goodie [sic], the way it did with Amy Winehouse. I know there is no single “media” or “social media”. I know they are complex machines that comprise, by their nature, millions of participants. ‘But our systems operate in accordance with values and the way these values are set and the consequeneces of these values are obviously in serious need of reevaluation. I have resigned from fame because it brought out the worst in me, vanity, insecurity, jealousy, competitiveness. Most people I’ve spoken to have comparable experiences, it’s hard to endure what celebrity does to your mental health without a robust constitution or strong counter measures to ground and protect you. ‘There is little to be gained from allocating blame now that Caroline is dead. Her vulnerability was obvious when the CPS pursued her case and when she took another turn in the barrel with the media and social media. I’ve seen that there are petitions to regulate the press and I admire the optimism of the enterprise. But the media is made up of people, the world of celebrity is made up of people, social media is made up of people. All culture, all values pass through the consciousness of individuals and collectives. If we want the world to change, for less people to die in pain and shame then we should pause before we next vent a pleasurable stab of vindictive judgement or jeering condemnation.

Russell said he was ‘angry and sad’ (Picture: Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for The Recording Academy)

‘Social media is a network of connections. We can use those connections to convey love and support and kindness, all ideas that can be rationally understood as expressions of our unity. While we are unique and different, beautiful in our vast and distinct identities – and all identities can be honoured, we are all capable of kindness, we are all capable of redemption, we are all worthy of love. ‘Whenever we speak and act and relate we emanate intent through the invisible threads that connect us. Communication is the creation of community, what kind of communities are we creating? Caroline was surrounded by friends and families that loved her, that love her still through a shattered lens of anguish, and that love could not incubate her or protect her from the pain and shame that ended her life.’ He concluded: ‘We have the power to hurt one another and the power to heal one another, perhaps that’s the only power we have. We can never see the positive impact of our actions, the times when our kindness and compassion may have saved a life but we can see what happens in its absence. As long as our public values continue to be an expression of lower human instincts none of us are exempt from the pain and shame that closed in on the bright and playful light that used to shine from Caroline. ‘Our best hope is to build relationships and communities based on kindness, forgiveness and compassion, not easy values to maintain given the complexity within us and without us but Caroline’s death shows us that the alternative is just too sad to bear.’

The statement has been praised and shared widely on social media, with Russell’s sister-in-law Kirsty Gallacher commenting: ‘Thank you for this.’ Caroline was honoured on Monday night’s episode of Love Island by friend Iain Stirling, as the show returned after taking a two-day break following the news.

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